Don‘t Praise Your Child Too Much

 Don’t Praise Your Child… Too Much

 I know why you opened this page; To read How one can make such an absurd statement as to not praise your child. But have you ever thought if there is something called “too much praise”, And how that can hurt your child?

 Well, now it makes some sense.

 As a parent you must have often heard the benefits of praising your child. Praise is verbal form of appreciation and is important for the development of the child’s self-confidence. Praise is the child’s reassurance of a job well done.

 That it is different from love and affection is known to both the parent and the child.

 Imagine a situation where the child is praised for every thing he does (instead of being assessed critically). As he grows he becomes a Mr./Ms Right. For everything he does is correct and is appreciated. Now imagine how he would react in a situation where his performance is not to the mark and he is criticized for the parts not done too well.

 Doesn’t draw a very rosy picture, doesn’t it? And this is certainly not a hypothetical example. Children brought up in “all praise” environment end up in such situations sooner or later in life and worse, they are not equipped to come out of such situations.

 This is what too much praise can do to your child

 Praise is a way to get them to do things by sugar coating our words. An arrangement out of convenience, this can lead to your kids being raised as praise junkies who will do almost anything for praise.

 Since they become dependant on the praise lavished by parents, kids always look for approval even as adults. They are less sure of their actions not followed by praise. They avoid taking risks or do things that have not gained them direct praise.

 Kids used to too much praise start dividing their world into two: a) things they are good at and b) things they are not good at. Hence they stop trying to do things they are not good at, because they become afraid to try.

 When you praise your child too much, you are basically telling your child how to feel. This will rob him the pleasure of appreciation for a job well done. Moreover, when you praise too much, you are quantifying the measure of pride a child should feel. This is detrimental in the long run.

  Excessive praise can take away a child’s interest from the task. Imagine something becoming your second nature & even you will be bored of it soon.

  Instead of praising your child every time he does a good job

 Just be silent and let your child realize the virtue of doing good. Appreciate what is good and not what is not, probably completing with a note of encouragement Make them independent instead of being dependent on praise. Give an evaluation of what you really liked about their behavior/ task instead of giving a general thumbs’- up.

 Ask your child questions on what he/she liked best about a particular task or about his her good behavior. Asking questions will help you to gain an insight into their thinking and also encourage them to think more on their own.

 Provide your child feedback; instead of judgment and develop them into a thinking and caring individual.

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